The loss of confidence is just as methodical and gradual and gaining it back. Remember how it felt to be on top of your confidence game with nothing or no one to hold you back? That was pre-shame. And post-shame is a bit different. To find that sweet spot of self-assurance again, you have to go through a process. It begins with letting go of trying to vindicate yourself. But that only happens during your period of isolation. Is isolation necessary for restoration? There's no solid theory on it yet, but I think so.